This original article was posted here:

http://www.oprah.com/health/Things-That-Influence-Dreams-Dream-Facts/1

Unexpected Things That Influence Your Dreams
You know that sounds, smells and situations can invade them and certain medications spin them out of control. But not in your wildest dreams (maybe) did you think these could play a role.
By Jena Pincott
Your “Favored Position”
Being nude, unable to move, using hand tools, making love to a celebrity (or all of the above at once)? Erotic and perverse dreams are more common among stomach sleepers than among those who favor other positions, found a Hongkongese study (face down in the pillow, privates pressed, you can imagine how). Meanwhile, Turkish researchers found that people who usually sleep on their left side have more nightmares and bizarre dreams, whereas those who slept on their right have mellower ones, with themes of relief, joy, peace and love. No surprise, right-side sleepers also felt better rested and less dysfunctional in their waking hours. (Note: A favored position is one you’re in prior to sleep and when you wake in the morning.)
Kindergarten Music Lessons
There’s a little-known payoff to all those years of elementary school band. The younger people were when they started taking music lessons, the more often the sound of music permeated their dreams. Researchers at the University of Florence’s Sleep Lab who discovered this also found that starting formal training at an early age, when the brain was developing rapidly, had more influence on how often people experienced musical dreams than the total number of years they had lessons, or even how many hours a day they played or listened to music. Bonus finding: 28 percent of these dreams featured music the dreamers had never heard before, suggesting that we really can create original art in our sleep.
Your Love of Cheddar Over Blue Cheese
Despite all the hearsay about dream-inducing edibles, there’s not a lot of science yet, says Tore Nielsen, PhD, a professor at the University of Montreal and director of the Dream & Nightmare Laboratory at the Hôpital du Sacré-Coeur in Montreal. But take heart, experimentalists. In a preliminary, yet-unpublished study, he and a colleague discovered that the most commonly mentioned dream-disturbing foods contained dairy (milk, cheese and yogurt, pizza and poutine—a cheesy Canadian dish). Interestingly, an informal study by the British Cheese Board also found that cheddar (2/3 ounce, a half-hour before bedtime) inspired the pleasantest, most memorable dreams (with celebrity appearances, no less), while Stilton, a stinky blue cheese, made dreams freakier. Nielsen explains that when dairy dreams are distressing, the problem could be an undiagnosed sensitivity to dairy (indigestion, cramping, gas), which is incorporated into the dream as disturbing symbols or emotions.
The Planet’s Gentle Pull
Research finds a connection between magnetism and melatonin: The fewer fluctuations in the earth’s magnetic field (geomagnetic activity), the more dream-inducing sleep hormone the body produces. Inspired, Darren Lipnicki, a psychologist formerly at the Center for Space Medicine in Berlin, recorded his dreams for eight years—he then looked up the records of geomagnetic activity closest to where he lived and found a statistical correlation. After two or more days of an unusually calm magnetic field—and (presumably) higher melatonin—his dreams were much more vivid and bizarre than they were following stormier phases (when melatonin may have been suppressed). As oddball as this preliminary study sounds, it’s not alone.
Your Nocturnal Tendencies
If you’re a night owl and happen to be female, you’re especially prone to having nightmares, Nielsen found. One theory, he explains, is that go-to-bed-late types wake up at an earlier-than-usual circadian phase, in which dreams (or nightmares) are their most intense—and memorable. Another is that evening types have more REM cycles nightly (that is, more opportunities to have nightmares) than others, especially when they sleep in on weekends. But Nielsen contends that the distressing dreams may be primarily a manifestation of mood disorders such as depression and anxiety, which prey on more owls than larks. The best advice, he says, is to experiment with going to sleep earlier. If that’s not realistic, he recommends “imagery rescripting”: a technique for “rewriting a bad dream” by reviewing it during daylight hours—usually with the help of a psychologist—and playing it back with a different twist or ending.
Your Onscreen Alter Ego
The more you play video games, the more control and awareness you’ll have in your dreams—like playing your “character” in your sleep, found Jayne Gackenbach, PhD, a psychologist at Grant MacEwan University in Canada. She explains that serious gamers get a lot of practice maneuvering in a virtual environment—a skill that may translate especially well in the context of a dream.
The One Thing You Want to Avoid
Just try to quash undesired thoughts—about urges, exes, hair loss, deadlines, white bears, whatever—and they’re more likely to rebound in your dreams, jack-in the-box-style, found a study at the Goethe University of Frankfurt. (The prefrontal cortex, which usually keeps these things in check, goes offline as you dream.) The researchers tested this by asking volunteers to suppress an unwanted thought for five minutes prior to sleep. Not only was the thought likelier to intrude in their dreams, but suppressing it also led to more nightmares overall. And when you already have a lot on your mind, the one thing you’re avoiding is even likelier to rebound. But, as Sigmund Freud pointed out, there’s a bright side: “A wish suppressed during the day asserts itself in a dream.” That is, the fantasies you deny or otherwise make taboo are also likelier to play out in your sleep.

December 29th, 2013 by Mimi

If you have ever wondered what is the difference between traditional psychotherapy, coaching, hypnotherapy, and everything in between, here is a GREAT article by the highly talented Stephen Gilligan. He does his own style of work called Generative Coaching, in which he works with both the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. My work is very aligned with his philosophy and I also work with both the conscious and subconscious. He describes it so well I wanted to share his article here:

Generative Coaching: 
The Practical Use of Creative Consciousness
Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D.
Encinitas, CA
www.StephenGilligan.com

Helping people to improve their lives is one of the world’s oldest professions.  It has assumed many forms—philosophy, fortune telling, shamanic healing, religious rituals, informal relationships, psychotherapy, and so forth—but the underlying process of people seeking guidance for life changes has endured.  The practice of generative coaching, that I have co-developed with Robert Dilts, is a third generation version of the more recent tradition of professional people helpers.1 This brief paper overviews generative coaching, first by briefly situating it in a historical context and then outlining the five basic steps of the approach.

 

Generative Coaching: A Third Generation Approach

 

Over the past century, many different methods for helping people to change have been developed.  Relevant to coaching, we can distinguish three generations of such approaches. The first is traditional psychotherapy, initially developed by Freud and others.   Here the focus is primarily on problems (often thought of as “mental disease”) and the past (in terms of negative events that “caused” present problems).  The idea is that intellectual understanding of historical causation will free the person from the grip of their problems. It is essentially re-hashing the past to try to free up the present, with the therapist a distant expert figure who diagnoses the pathology of the client.

 

For many, this approach was not attractive because it (a) took too long, (b) was very expensive, (c) pathologized and stigmatized people, and (d) often produced little or no real-world changes.  In response, a second generation of change approaches emphasized a person’s resources and positive goals, action over analysis, and solution-focused future orientation.  These approaches developed first within psychotherapy, with diverse brief therapy methods such as the Gestalt therapy of Fritz Perls, the Transactional Analysis of Eric Berne, and the hypnotic utilization approaches of Milton Erickson.

 

Concomitantly, the related field of the human potential movement arose in the 1960s and 70s.  It rejected authoritarian and pathologizing approaches in favor of positive changes through increased awareness, self-actualization, and altered states of consciousness.  These new methods shared a client-based, positive-oriented view that stood in stark contrast to the first generation.

 

These second-generation approaches constellated in the 1990s’s with the emergence of what might now be called traditional coaching.  Coaching was not for “sick” or “damaged” patients, but for healthy people seeking to improve their professional and personal lives.  Freed of the “crazy” stigma and strict hierarchies, coaching was attractive to many people, and has found applications in a number areas, such as life development, business, health, and sports.

 

However, in positioning itself as a counter-point to traditional therapy, coaching declared areas like emotional work and internal consciousness to be taboo or irrelevant.  We believe that such restrictions are unhelpful and unnecessary, and that the best  coaching involves equal attention to the “outer game” of a person’s goals, lived experiences, and practical choices; as well as to what Tim Gallwey (2000) calls the “inner game” of a person’s state of consciousness.  Such an approach assumes that all reality and identity are constructed, and that a person’s or group’s state—e.g., their beliefs, intentions, perceptions, somatic patterning, and cognitive meanings—is the base for such constructions (Gilligan, 2012). This orientation to integrating various dualities in a “both/and” approach—internal/external, problems/resources, past/future, cognitive/somatic, etc.—constitutes what we call third-generation approaches.

 

To understand the differences between these three generations of change work, a brief example might be helpful.  John is a 40 year old man living with his mother, struggling as a telemarketer.  If he came to traditional psychotherapy, he would likely be diagnosed in terms of some mental disorder that he is trapped in—e.g., depression, anxiety, character disorder—and the work would focus on either medicating him, removing the symptoms by understanding their historical causes (e.g., negative childhood experiences).or challenging his negative or non-reality based thinking.  Traditional coaching would give more primary attention to his positive, future-oriented goals (e.g., starting a business) and seek to identify the resources (mentors, associates, positive associations) and actions needed to practically achieve it.

 

Generative coaching would ensure his goals/intentions are congruent and resonant (as will be elaborated below), then look to develop his best state of consciousness to allow the positive intention to be realized.  This attunement to an optimal state might include somatic centering; identifying and transforming negative beliefs; accessing and integrating a variety of resources; ensuring action plans; identifying and transforming negative emotions and relationships relevant to the goal; and opening to a creative consciousness.

 

Thus, we see generative coaching as a broader and deeper type of work than traditional coaching.  In emphasizing that a person is responsible for creating their own life, it invites people to learn how they can realize their dreams by mastering their own creative consciousness. While it maintains a positive orientation to the future and “infinite possibilities”, it sees all of a person’s experience—positive and negative internal states, beliefs, historical experiences, creative imaginations, somatic states, etc.—as potential resources to achieving these positive goals.  To understand this process a bit more, we now turn to the five basic steps of generative coaching.

To read the rest of his article on generative coaching, click here:  http://stephengilligan.com/blog/blog-7/

June 25th, 2013 by Mimi

Did you know that the heart has an electromagnetic field that can be measured outside of the body?

The Institute of HeartMath is doing some amazing research, and now they have this beautiful video as well (below).  The video illustrates how the electromagnetic field of the heart operates not only within us (in communication with our brain) but how it also extends to our connections and relationships with other people.  When we say we can feel someone’s energy (whether positive or negative), this is no longer a woo-woo-way-out concept.  It is now scientifically documented that the heart generates the largest electromagnetic field in the body, and that it extends beyond the physical body. If we can feel the electric shock of a little spark of static electricity, of course we can also feel the electrical field of another human being.  Some of us are more sensitive to this subtle field, empathic people are especially tuned in to it.  It can be a gift in understanding fellow human beings, and it is also important for empaths and highly sensitive people to learn how to not get overwhelmed by the fields of others.  One way of doing this is learning how to turn up your OWN electromagnetic field, and increase your own heart coherence. When we do this, we are less affected by the energy of others, while still holding the ability (even more so) to tune in and connect with them.

The Institute of HeartMath emphasizes the importance of heart-brain communication and coherence.  When our head and our heart are operating in synch, our electromagnetic field is more coherent, and our heart beat is actually more rhythmically consistent.  This contributes to increased health, and if you are into the Law of Attraction, this is how you influence and interact with the Quantum Field to manifest your desires and create positive relationships.

From the paper ‘The Energetic Heart’ (www.heartmath.org) “…a subtle yet influential energetic system operates just below our conscious level of awareness….this energetic system contributes to the ‘magnetic’ attractions or repulsions that occur between individuals.”  Yes, apparently attraction really is magnetic!  If someone has what we call a ‘magnetic’ personality, it seems that from this scientific perspective they might likely have a very strong electromagnetic field.

It used to be believed that emotions originated in the brain.  Now it is recognized that emotions are a result of  brain-body communication. So how do you get the head and the heart to work together?  One of my specialties in working with private clients is something known as parts therapy. If you’ve ever said ‘part of me wants to buy that car, but part of me wants to save the money’, or ‘part of me wants to loose weight, but part of me wants to eat that cake!’, you are aware (consciously or unconsciously) that we all have ‘parts’ within us.  When these parts are not in agreement we experience the feeling of inner conflict, which  translates energetically and electromagnetically to the heart-brain communication system operating at less than optimal coherence (coherence is the goal).  One of my favorite ways to facilitate a client session is to do parts therapy with the head and the heart. I also add the gut into the equation. That will be another article, as science is now also finding that the gut has it’s own nervous system and intelligence, and is the only organ in the body that can operate independently of the brain. Intuitively we’ve always known this, again I defer to linguistics (one of my other favorite topics!), as how many times do we use expressions like “I had a gut feeling” or “he felt sick to his stomach about it” or  “she had butterflies in her stomach”.   If you would like to book a head-heart-gut session to increase internal coherence, resolve inner conflict, and/or help in decision making, please contact me.

In the mean time I hope you enjoy this video. It shows a visual representation of how I have seen and felt the world since I was a small child. Finally it’s ok to talk about this stuff!

~Mimi

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http://youtu.be/QdneZ4fIIHE

The Institute of HeartMath offers many interesting books and papers on their research. For more information visit: http://www.heartmath.org

May 30th, 2013 by Mimi

I often get dream submissions from teens regarding their sexuality and their religion or relationship with God, and the moral dilemmas faced when the two meet.  Though these concerns may persist throughout a lifetime, they seems especially potent for teens, when these experiences and choices are first being made.  These quandries are then reflected in the content of their dreams. 

With that in mind, here is an interesting article I came across regarding the topic of sexuality and a person’s relationship to God. While the article doesn’t pertain to dreams directly, the topic certainly does so I found it worthy of posting.

Is God Your Sexual Co-Pilot?

Monday March 15, 2010
by Cory Silverberg, sexuality educator and researcher

A recent study in the journal Sociology of Religion looks at American’s beliefs about divine intervention in their daily lives. Based on two large surveys of Americans (one of which was nationally representative) the paper reports on how much or little people believe God is involved and influencing the events and activities of their daily lives. Among the findings, the study documented that:

  • 82% of participants say they depend on God for help and guidance in making decisions
  • 71 per cent believe that when good or bad things happen, these occurrences are simply part of God’s plan for them
  • 61 per cent believe that God has determined the direction and course of their lives
  • 32 per cent agree with the statement: “There is no sense in planning a lot because ultimately my fate is in God’s hands.”

There are all sorts of critical questions to ask about what these numbers mean, especially since, if I understood the paper correctly, participants responded to questions whether or not they actually believed in God (so they were asked to report what they thought God was like, even if they didn’t believe in God).

But that’s not why I’m sharing this information. Even if these numbers are off, and they are much lower, it got me thinking. If you believe that God is at all involved in your daily life, if you believe there is a God who is making decisions or has a plan, and exerts an influence on your path, do you believe that God is involved in your sex life? Is it God who influences your choice of sexual partners? What does God have to say about how much you like sex, or the kind of sex you like?

I know a little bit about the various positions organized religions take on sexuality (positions that are never uniform, even within one religious faith or practice). I also know that there’s a whole Christian sex self-help industry. But what I’d like to know more about is whether people who feel God’s presence in their daily lives also feel that presence in their sex lives.

I talk with lots of people about sex every day. And thinking on this question I’m aware that sex is usually compartmentalized off from other kinds of God-ish experiences.

So there are people who engage in specific kinds of sexual practices that they call spiritual (things like Tantric and Taoist sexual practices). And they often talk about feeling as if sexual activities are a form of worship, that sex makes them feel closer to God. But I don’t hear those people talking so much about God outside of their sexual practice.

And then there are people who (as this study suggests) feel as if God is influencing their daily lives, but those folks don’t talk so much about sex.

This may or may not be the best place to ask (and for goodness sake, if you’re going to leave a comment below please be kind) but it seems to me that there must be all sorts of voices missing from these conversations, and I’m genuinely curious. If you do believe that God is involved in your everyday life, how much do you think about that when you think about sex and sexuality?

The article is posted here:

http://sexuality.about.com/b/2010/03/15/is-god-your-sexual-co-pilot.htm?nl=1

Read more – Schieman, S. “Socioeconomic Status and Beliefs about God’s Influence in Everyday LifeSociology of Religion. Volume 71, No. 1 (2010): 25-51. Accessed March 11, 2010.

March 24th, 2010 by Mimi

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

– Rumi

August 14th, 2009 by Mimi

Next time anyone believes that their doctor is always right, reflect on this piece of vintage advertising:

http://eatliver.com/i.php?n=868

August 14th, 2009 by Mimi